Weight loss is such a complex issue, for women in particular. The part that is simple is knowing what to eat and what not to eat. If that was all weight loss is about, we would have very few overweight people. Most people know what you should and shouldn’t eat in order to lose weight – if you don’t know, just pick up any women’s magazines in the shops and you’ll lose 2 stones in a week. It’s most likely not going to be healthy, but you’ll lose the weight. Anyway, in my experience, people’s first concern is weight from an aesthetic point of view – you want to look good. Health is secondary; always, if it was people’s main concern no one would gain weight in the first place.
I know everything there is to know about weight loss and if there’s something I don’t know, I can ask one of the numerous experts I work with and yet, there are times when I struggle to control my weight. It’s not because of my underactive thyroid (though I have to say, there are times when I’m tempted to use that as an excuse not to do anything) that might make me more prone to putting on weight and means I can’t even look at certain things like sugar and refined carbs without them sticking to my belly but it’s not an excuse to being, and remaining, overweight.
It’s not because you ,or I, are lazy. You’re not weak or useless or lack willpower or stupid or unable to do it or a failure or destined to be overweight or a greedy pig or any of those things you think you are, you’re none of them. Thinking those things is only going to make you feel worse and consequently make it harder to lose weight. But I know, it’s hard to stop thinking them either.
The problem is not just getting motivated and staying motivated – though this is a big part of it, of course, but how do you get motivated? Does it take willpower? No, it shouldn’t. You have to start from the right place in order to be able to stay motivated easily and achieve your goals without the constant struggle associated with weight loss plans. When you’re in the right place, you don’t need willpower, it comes to you naturally and easily and you will enjoy it.
What is the right place then? The absolute key to getting to the right place is learning to believe in yourself, learning to accept yourself today – not waiting until you look a certain way to accept yourself but accept yourself the way you are today and believe that you are able achieve your goals. You need to respect yourself. If you want to lose weight because you hate yourself, then you have a rough road ahead of you and your likelihood of succeeding is poor. You need to want to lose weight because you love yourself, because you want to treat yourself well, not because you hate yourself because, believe me, if you don’t like yourself today, you’re not going to like yourself when you’re in that hot bikini; it might be for different reasons but you’ll always find something to hate about yourself.
This is not a change that’s going to happen overnight but once you start working on it, you’ll be surprised by how easy it is and how much you enjoy the process.